Teasing is an art. That's why not everyone can do burlesque or stripping. It takes real skill to tease. Thank goodness we have a professional tease (I mean actor), to tell us some of the finer points of teasing the female kind. What better foreplay than the art of tease? Want to learn how to tease your lady partner better? Read on.
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I have heard way to many women tell me, "Men don't know what they are doing in bed." These men are constantly thinking of themselves, rather than their partners. From what I've seen, women need a build up before having mind-blowing sex (unsurprisingly). You need to tease them and drive them wild before doing the duty.
Focusing on your partner is really always the best way to make sure both of your sex is pleasurable. Think of She Comes First, by Ian Kerner, for example. By focusing on her orgasm and needs, you raise the bar for everyone involved. Here are six ways on how to make your sex lives more pleasurable for the both of you, but lets focus on her needs first.
Massages are an easy one to get her turned on. Grab some lotion or baby oil and start slow. Women love to be touched, so make sure your fingers and hands do the walking. You can give her a nice full body massage from head to toe and don't forget the front side of her body, but make sure you avoid the vulva, nipples and most erogenous areas until the end.
Doing this doesn't just drive her wild, but with your hands all over her body will probably get you turned on just as much. Use different pressures during the massage, like using light finger tips down her neck and back. Use more pressure on her shoulders for the muscle relaxing she needs. This brings in an element of different sensations even before sex. Very good idea.
#2 Light touch
Light touching is similar to the massage. The main difference here is you'll just use your fingertips lightly over her entire body. Slide your fingers around her sides, stomach, shoulders and specifically her lower back. This move will soothe your partner and will allow time for relaxation in order to come more open--mentally and physically.
#3 Smell great
Hygiene is important for her desires! Think about it. Do you really want to smell like you just got home from the gym? Or better yet, that you just ate a plate full of cheese? Do your female partner a favor and shower. Clean up before getting ready for a romp in the sack (whether it's making love or even something quicker). I don't want to sound like your parent but wash your junk, brush your teeth and put on deodorant. Maybe even put some body spray on or some cologne she may have given you. Trust me, she will love that you put attention to detail.
#4 Tease when kissing
This one may be tough for some gents, but it works. When you and your partner start kissing, gently kiss her lips. Before the kiss becomes too passionate, quickly pull away. This will drive her wild and will make her want to kiss you even more. Lick lightly up her neck and the back of her neck and her ears. You can even transition that into licking down the front of her body, between her breasts and down her stomach. Some partners even like their arms held down when you kiss and lick her neck. If she enjoys it try it (obviously ask first [outside the bedroom is always better for submissive/dominant role play]).
#5 Be firm and be gentle
Depending on what your partner is comfortable with, being firm and being gentle will definitely work in their own separate ways. Be firm by being dominant. For example, talk dirty, hold her arms down while kissing or during sex, spank her ass or pull her hair. (Side note: again, make sure to ask before doing any of this, otherwise it'd have the opposite effect.)
Pulling her hips closer to you in the position you are currently in will drive her crazy. Being firm is the primal way of men taking care of their partners.
Be gentle by starting off slow and sensual with your touches and kisses. Take your time and enjoy the experience. Too many partners just want to have sex to orgasm or ejaculate, but the more turned on you are, the better the orgasm will be. That also works with women--the more pleasurable the experience for your partner, the bigger and longer her orgasm will be. Kiss her body in the position you are in, slide your hands up and down her body, make her feel loved and tingley everywhere.
#6 Mix it up
Don't be predictable in bed. Don't be that guy who will walk in the bedroom and say, "take your clothes off". Don't just remove her bra and panties and go straight for the goodies. Actually, ask her what she wants and what her desires are. She will really like that you want to please her. Does she like using toys? Does she like dirty talk? Does she enjoy watching porn? Changing it up once in a while will make sex and foreplay more enjoyable for the both of you.
If you use any mixture or all of these six methods you should certainly get a response from her that you would never have expected. Everyone wants to be desired and to feel good so make sure that you take the time to treat her the way she needs to be treated. Do it today!
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